Cassie’s son Jack is thoughtful and kind, quiet and smart. He’s nine. The old soul kind of kid, with big eyes, that embodies “still waters run deep”, cut from the cloth of Cassie’s husband. Cassie once told me that at night she lays with Jack while he falls asleep, he doesn’t like to fall asleep without her. When they’re in his little bed with his little sleepy self, she’ll ask him what he’s thinking about at that very second. Just asks him to blurt it out, without thinking too hard about it. She does it so they’d get in the habit about talking about feelings and thoughts when there’s no pressure, there’s nothing wrong, there’s no stress. Just mommy and boy, sleepy and intertwined, the safest space a kid could have. I loved this so, so much. This quick insight into another working mom’s connection moment with her kid at night, after a long day, a long week, with a quiet, sleepy boy, together in a little bed. I brought that advice into our home and practice it often, and think of her often.
Cassie was killed last year on February 9th, 2020. On a Sunday afternoon. Her life, her family, everything she built and did and loved and wanted and dreamed for, left behind, standing still without her. Lot’s of people write thoughtful things about grief, so I’ll leave that to them. For me, I think of Jack today. I think of him, his little body in his little bed at night with his big thoughts, and I know above all doubt, he is not alone. Not for one minute.
Like a lot of us reading this, Cassie was a supermom. She had a massive career, a strong marriage, a beautiful son, a close knit family and a fierce dedication to service. She loved a good party, in fact, she WAS the party. The last time I saw Cassie she flew down to Aruba to surprise her brother for his 40th birthday. She jumped out behind a plant in the hotel lobby and scared the hell out of him. Cassie jammed so much life in to all of her days on this earth. She left behind a legacy that is up to us to carry on.
So today, we will honor Cassie by doing something good for someone else. Like Cassie herself, even the littlest of things can make the biggest difference. Join us by doing something kind for someone (make that phone call, buy that cup of coffee for the person behind you, write that letter) and share with us by tagging @bundle and using #karmaforcassie because we are on this earth today and we are gifted the chance to be as good as Cassie was.
With all my love
Jean
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